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6 Reasons Porn Seems Awesome

You’ve got to admit it, porn is everywhere. It’s accessible on every smart device and computer I own. It’s used in advertising (or a softcore version of it is). It’s talked about on radio and TV. People post about it all over the internet. It’s rife on Twitter and other social media sites.

According to what I’ve heard out there, it’s pretty normal to use it these days. Over the years I’ve had many discussions with various people about porn and the pros and cons of it. Throughout some of these conversations, I’ve had some interesting debates and some interesting arguments as to why porn is so great, or so they believe.

For me, my porn use has caused so much damage to my life and to the lives of so many people out there. I just cannot see how it’s helpful to anyone at all. The research is out and it’s saying porn is addictive[1], it causes erectile dysfunction[2], it destroys relationships[3], it messes up children’s lives[4]. I hear these stories about the harm it’s caused almost every day. People get trapped by it and they need help. I’ve been one of those people, wishing for help. Not wanting to go back to porn but not being able to help myself, spending time endlessly viewing, going from video to video, image to image. One thing I can guarantee is that at some stage porn will chew you up and spit you out with nothing. That’s why Guilty Pleasure is here to help.

So how do we deal with? What are other people saying? Why do they think porn is so great? Sometimes we have to understand the apparent truths so we can see what’s going through people’s minds. Whether it be controversial or not, here are the top 6 reasons I’ve been told that make porn awesome. Do you agree or disagree? I know where I stand!!

Reason 1
Porn doesn’t hurt anyone

The great thing about porn is that it doesn’t really hurt anyone. You can jump online and use it and enjoy what the ‘actors’ are doing. They are consenting adults, who may or may not be paid for doing on camera what they love. On some sites, people upload videos of themselves, which are awesome. Uploading their own videos helps them get pleasure out of their exhibitionist fantasises. As a viewer of their videos you can help them with that.

Porn is also a great release. It helps you to curb your desire, when your wife/husband, girlfriend/boyfriend aren’t into it. No other human required, oh apart from yourself. Oh, and your internet connection. But that’s not human. If all imagination has escaped you, porn’s also great to watch with your partner, to spice things up in the bedroom and give you ideas and so you can act them out.

Reason 2
Porn is free

The internet has been absolutely fantastic for porn viewers. Without any effort at all you can watch porn anytime you want, however you want. Not a cent leaves your account. It’s there on tap, ready to go. Realistically you are paying a little… because you’re paying for the data on your internet connection. But hey, it’s a very small price to pay for a “date night”.

For producers free porn is a double edge sword. Since so much free content is out there they cannot sell as many DVD’s etc. of porn. So these days they have to rely on advertising on porn sites to get their revenue. Some sites also offer subscriptions luring you in for more ‘deluxe’ content. Overall not many people go the paid option though, because that leaves a trail of your behaviour and you definitely don’t want to be caught out.

Reason 3
Porn doesn’t have bad hair days

We all have bad hair days. Days when we just don’t feel up to it. Days when we are tired. Days when we are sick. Days when we’re feeling fat and ugly. Porn doesn’t. Porn is there to fulfil your desires when ever you want. It doesn’t have bad breath. It doesn’t say “not now honey,” or “do the dishes honey,” or “cook dinner honey.” In porn the woman is always in fits of ecstasy. She always has an orgasm, multiple times. She’s ready and willing whenever you’re ready. The guys can stay hard forever and they don’t get tired. They just keep going, changing from position to position. Plus, you don’t have to worry about foreplay. You don’t have to give someone a hug. You just think “I’m ready”, log on and go.

Reason 4
Porn meets my every need

Porn has had so much time to evolve. So much time that there’s pretty much nothing you can’t find. If you’re into S&M, there’s stuff for that. Anal sex, there’s stuff for that. Threesomes or group sex, that’s covered. Rape or choking, that’s covered too. Pretty much anything that you can dream of exists in porn. It goes all the way from the “mundane” through to the most violent and illegal varieties that I really don’t want to name. The great (or is that scary) thing is that you don’t have to search hard for it. It’s there ready to go whenever you want, however you want.

Even for women, porn’s got it covered more than any others. With romance porn, porn now has a story… so to speak. And if you’re into “amateur” or “homemade” porn, there’s plenty of videos uploaded by others, normal people who just want to show their sex lives off. If I want to get my rocks off, porn is there to help me. It’s always there. Always. No other human required. No relationship to maintain. Except with your computer, or your smart device….

Reasons 5
Porn teaches us about sex

If it wasn’t for modern day porn we wouldn’t have been able to learn much about sexuality. It’s a live sex guide, carefully thought out through years of practice and honing. It’s taught us about amazing sexual positions from the normal to the damn right acrobatic. Positions where the woman gets off every time and we never get to see the guys face. Positions where she’s stretched out beyond what we thought was humanly possible.

It teaches us about sexual response, how to arouse your lover endlessly and tirelessly. How to be a more amazing lover. It teaches us what a real man and a real woman looks like and how they should act and speak when they are making love. Thanks to porn we don’t have to be creative on our own anymore, porn is always there to tell us what to do and to show us how to do it. Creativity unplugged or is that plugged in?

Reason 6
Porn is normal

In today’s society everyone looks at porn. It’s normal for boyfriends or husbands to have a peek now and then behind their partners back, or even to use it everyday. I mean, that’s what all men do, right? Women now look at it to.  More than ever before. There’s stuff for tuned just for them. More romantic and much more gentle. I mean everyone does it right? As long as we’re all ok, it’s cool. So many are watching it so it must be ok.

 

And that’s the way porn is. I could go on with the endless list of “truths” about porn and its advantages, but I’d rather not. It’s done enough destruction in my life. So do you believe these “truths?” Do these reasons make sense to you? Or is porn just a bunch of senseless mess?

From where I sit, reading through these reasons, it’s pretty clear that porn has turned us into selfish, lonely, non creative thinkers who want it now! But you know what? I’d prefer to have healthy creativity in my bedroom. I’d prefer to come up with my own antics without the influence of porn models. I’d prefer to enjoy my partner and not the pixels. I’d prefer to feel her breath on my skin, hug her and kiss her. Talk with her. After a while that lonely screen of pixels gets very cold. I want to be loved not lacked.

If you’re struggling with porn or know someone who is we’re here to help you. You don’t have to do the journey alone. Check out our help page for more resources and ideas to get you started on a journey to freedom.

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Citations
[1] Struthers, W. (2009). Your brain on porn. In Wired for intimacy: How pornography hijacks the male brain. Downers Grove, Ill., Illinois: InterVarsity Press.
 [2] Wilson, Gary. “START HERE: Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunction | Your Brain On Porn”. Yourbrainonporn.com. N.p., 2011. Web. 18 Jan. 2016.
 [3] Wilson, G. (2010, December 4). Why Is Romeo Ignoring Juliet? Retrieved November 14, 2015, from http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/why-is-romeo-ignoring-juliet
 [4] Jones, Lisa M. et al. (2010).Trends in Youth Internet Victimization: Findings From Three Youth Internet Safety Surveys, Journal of Adolescent Health , Volume 50 , Issue 2 , 179 – 186
By |2016-10-14T11:11:09+00:00January 19th, 2016|General, REDColumn|2 Comments

About the Author:

Jason
Jason Huxley is the founder of Guilty Pleasure. In 2005, having taken his marriage to the point of divorce, Jason was somewhat forced to deal with many issues in his life and started a journey of recovery from porn addiction. From personal experience he knows the incredible guilt and shame that porn addiction creates and the implications it has on relationships and marriages. Both Jason and his wife, Laura, know that freedom from sex and porn addiction will restore people’s lives. They are passionate about educating parents on the traps of pornography, encouraging them to talk about it with their children before it becomes a part of their lives. You can read more of Jason's story right here.

2 Comments

  1. rekk January 31, 2016 at 4:01 am - Reply

    you need to find out what happens to people after quitting porn.

    • Jason
      Jason February 1, 2016 at 3:03 pm - Reply

      Yes we do :-). And I’ve got it planned for a future blog.

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