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If you’ve spent hours or minutes checking out porn recently you might be wondering if porn is harming you?

Well, we can tell you for certain, it is! Let us explain why.

Porn is addictive

A clear negative consequence of your pornography use is that it may escalate to the level of addiction and it can be just as addictive as drugs. The human ejaculation compares directly with the euphoric states seen in heroin and cocaine users. The more you view, the more of the rewarding neurotransmitter dopamine is released in your brain. This causes you to want more and to make the decision to pursue it, which can become an endless cycle.1 It’s no wonder you can get hooked!

Porn viewers develop new maps in their brains, based on the photos and videos they see. Because it is a use-it-or-lose-it brain, when we develop a map area, we long to keep it activated.”2

Porn can make you lonely

For most men, porn is viewed while you are by yourself. In secret, late at night while your partner is asleep or sneaky peak on your phone while alone. Before long, you find porn making you retreat further and further from family, friends and work. Your secret life becomes more and more real than your real life.Real intimacy involves you interacting with other people, building relationship with them. Porn bypasses all of that. All you need is you, a screen and most likely an internet connection. No other humans required.

Porn can destroy your relationships

Over time, you might find that heavy porn use can stop you becoming aroused by real women—even women you find sexually attractive. Even worse than that, exposure to numerous sexy female images can cause you to devalue your real-life partner.4 The more you use pornography the more likely you’ll be less satisfied with your partner’s looks, sexual appetite, performance and desire to try new things in the bedroom. Over time you grow to put more value on porn then sex with emotional involvement.5

Porn changes your brain

The compulsive use of pornography can cause measurable physical, anatomic changes in your brain, the hallmark of brain addiction.Pornography, delivered by high-speed internet connections, satisfies every one of the prerequisites for neuroplastic change.Excessive viewing of pornography can actually reduce the grey matter in the reward sections of your brain. This creates less nerve connections, which means you have to view more novel images and thus seek out new porn or types of porn to get the reward circuitry of your brain firing.8

Porn isn’t realistic

Porn shapes cultural expectations about female sexual behavior.9  In real life women aren’t available sexually whenever you want, they aren’t always horny and they might not want to be part of the latest kinky sex move. Plus, what you see in porn might not be really what’s happening. Porn actors might be trafficked or abused on the porn set. They might vomit after their scene is finished or be subjected to violence when the camera isn’t rolling.10 Plus the porn videos you might be watching could’ve been stolen or uploaded online as an act of revenge after a relationship breakup.11

Porn leaves you empty

Porn can leave you feeling like you are a bad and unworthy person. It can make you feel like your desires are not being met and that sex is your most important need.12 Some research has shown that prolonged porn use can cause significant changes in mental health including depression, hostility and anxiety.13 So it’s no wonder you feel empty and alone after viewing. Regaining control of your life begins when you start a journey of recovery and reduce your porn viewing to zero.

So what next?

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2 Doidge, N. (2010). Acquiring Tastes and Loves. In The brain that changes itself: Stories of personal triumph from the frontiers of brain science. Carlton Nth, Victoria: Scribe Publishing Pty.
3 Patrick J. Carnes PhD. (2001) Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction. (Third Addition) Center City Minnesota: Hazelden Publishing
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8 Kühn S, Gallinat J. Brain Structure and Functional Connectivity Associated With Pornography Consumption: The Brain on Porn. JAMA Psychiatry. 2014;71(7):827-834. doi:10.1001/jamapsychiatry.2014.93.
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11 Simpson, J. (2014, July 4). Revenge porn: What is it and how widespread is the problem? Retrieved November 14, 2015, from http://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/home-news/what-is-revenge-porn-9580251.html
12 Patrick J. Carnes PhD. (2001) Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction. (Third Addition) Center City Minnesota: Hazelden Publishing
13 Wilson, G. (2014). Isolating cause and effect. In Your Brain on Porn. Commonwealth Publishing.